Aren't You Tired of Parents Yet?

Hey!

So.. main question..

Are you not tired of your parents? You should be by now.. I mean, they're your parents, they want whats best for you and all, but hey.. They tell you what to do every .. day!

Yes, they are also supposed to do that, but what if you're like, 15 or something, and maybe you've finally got the hottest boy in your class to ask you out, so you're super excited, then your parents say no. Possibly because they're worried, possibly because they don't want their daughter (or son with girlfriend) to be with a boy/girl. Or maybe they're just being 'cruel'.

So.. take this for example. Pretend you are this person. (Going to be in a girls perspective, so if you guys read ..well.. pretend you're transsexual for a minute..)

You're name is _______... lets go with Lauren.

You're name is Lauren, you're 4 months past 13, and you're a Christian, with divorced parents, 2 stepparents, and they're fairly strict. You've been raised by God's word, learning Christian things, and you've always been taught at a strict degree of teachings.

Now, at 13, you feel alone, possibly depressed. Because you want to do what other girls your age do. You want to cut your hair, you want to wear pants, you want to wear makeup. You might want to swear occasionally and do stuff you won't get in trouble for. But.. you're mom won't let you. You're mom is the Christian one (or claims to be..) and refuses to let you do anything but have long, horridly dull hair, and wear nothing both 'bigger' shirts (not super-tight), no v-neck, and long skirts. And she won't let you wear a little eyeliner or mascara either. Or jewelry.

And you're starting to get pissed off at this, right? You're tired of always being told 'no'. While at you're grandparents house, or your dad's house, you're allowed to do whatever you please. They buy you makeup, they buy you pants, and are happy when you're willing to wear it/them. But then your brother goes off and tells your mom, and a big war starts. And you're in the middle, and always think you're the cause.

You probably want to kill yourself, 'cause you're tired of crying, right? Well..thats how I was.

I'm 13, my name is Amber (but I go by Kiana, and I trust you all to keep it that way), I was born and raised a Christian. (Messenger-Christian). And all my life, I've been told 'no' to almost everything, I wasn't spoiled, I was always poor, and I hated my life. But one day, while living at my grandparents again, my mom met this guy online. And therefore, she met him, talked, and is now engaged to him. He's pretty cool I suppose, and my mom and Richard have been living at the house she bought, while my one brother, Jake (16) and I have been living at my grandparents, continuously. My eldest brother Josh (19) lives with my dad, and has a pretty good life, does what he wants. But one day, when he told her (about 5 years ago) that he was tired of not being able to do the things he wants, that he was just going to do it, no matter what my mom said, so she kicked him out.

Well, I wasn't allowed to do anything.. but one day, I just said "Mom.. I'm dying and cutting my hair, and you're not gonna stop me. I'm also gonna do the things I want," and verrry surprisingly (because my dad told her to, at Court), she was calm and cool about it. She accepted it. Didn't necessarily 'tell me' "Yes, fine, go ahead" but she was fine with it. And.. I think it was April 16th, or 17th, I went to my dads. For the whole weekend, but on one of those days, my cousin Rob's fiance Kat, who's a hairdresser, came over, and dyed my hair black (from brown), and gave me purple streaks, aswell as cut it, to about 2 1/2 inchec below my shoulders. And I love it! My mom came over today, April 21, and saw it. And she's 100% fine with it, which is awesome.

So, in the very near future, I'm being taken out by my stepmom, Kim, to go shopping for clothes (pants!!!) with my stepsis, Tayler (9). And we're gonna get our nails done, buy whatever clothing we want, (as my dad said, "Don't worry about what your moms anymore, if she wants to freak out, I'll take the heat, and she can do so on me") and I'm also gonna get my makeup done. (yay!) =)

And really soon, I'm gonna wear pants, I'm gonna wear makeup, and I'm gonna swear, and wear earrings. I'm gonna do, what I, myself, want to do.

So I just wanted to share that with you, and let me know if you've had problems like this, if you did, how'd you overcome them, or if you haven't yet, has this inspired you to?

Let me know.

Thanks for reading,

Love You All, For Who You Are
God Bless

X
Kiana